In recent years, the more I have learned about myself the more I have come to realise that play is so intrinsically linked to who I am, it must be real. Real energy exchange, real interactions, real humanity. The Japanese have a concept “Ichi-go ichi-e” which is the cultural concept of treasuring the unrepeatable nature of a moment. I adore this concept, the idea that we can create a beautiful, true moment between us with no need for it to extend past the time we have together. To explore all the emotions and intensity that comes from authenticity, to become lost together and explore anew. The beauty of creating genuine connection and enriching each other's lives through blissful moments.
As part of the move I retired from pro-subbing, this decision was based on knowing I could not truly submit to most, I myself have many facets which I enjoy expressing when the company is right, my Domme facet is forever growing stronger, a wild creature that cannot be tamed or caged and which I adore. Top-space has become one of my favourite realms to lose myself to and relax in after I have turned a willing submissive into my art piece, breaking them down to the edge of desperation only to mold them to my desires… As such even in lifestyle play, I submit to only a handful. Over the years I have met some excellent Male Doms through work who have made submission a pleasure and incredibly natural however, these are far and few between. I do occasionally accept sessions from previous Dom clients who fall into this category however it is unlikely I will accept this type of session off someone I have never met again.
The kinky girlfriend experience is more suited to most, a time spent where we enjoy mutual kinks without the pressure of you needing to perform a Dom role that may not be natural especially when playing with someone so naturally dominant. This can be romantic and sensual or can include various kinks such as spanking, bondage but the intention of this time together is to mutually indulge in our hedonistic desires as opposed to a D/s dynamic. The page for this is intentionally vague as the experience between us is solely for us, there are no prescribed guidelines, it almost entirely depends on how we engage with each other, allowing the possibilities to be endless, the moment to be real.
Panta-rhei: everything flows; when you allow the connection to take its natural path true magic can be created.
I understand for many the difference between hedonism and D/s isn’t clear, as a Domme I regularly get applications from fetishists wanting to submit but only wanting to indulge in their kinks on their terms. This is not submission. Submission involves putting the care and trust for your well being in someone else’s hands. Doing exactly as you are told because you trust the Dom/me to take care of you, even if that means accepting something you do not particularly enjoy. For me this is an incredibly intimate and vulnerable dynamic, something that is treasured by the Dom/me as the gift it is and taken seriously as the responsibility that comes with it. Knowing when my subs are suffering or struggling simply by seeing the glow in their eyes change, being aware enough to know and be in control of the situation long before they would ever need to call a safe word. The Domme’s I regularly film with and build dynamics with know this, I have never had to call a safe word, never had to question my safety in a scene or been left afterwards without care. As I have mentioned, I have experienced this beautiful dynamic with a handful of Dom clients historically but the majority who apply do not understand or respect the dynamic and I can not pretend to submit. Being fake is not in my nature.
When you are ready to explore your hedonistic nature, your romantic self or you desire to submit; send me an application and we can create a once in a lifetime moment together...
